Saturday, July 28, 2012

Social Media Killing Our Socialization Skills


A Stanford professor of communications who worked on a study published in Discovery Girls magazine showed that young girls who spend the most time multitasking between various digital devices, communicating online or watching video are the least likely to develop normal social tendencies, according to the survey of 3,461 American girls aged 8 to 12 who volunteered responses.  This story ran on CNN Tech, January 25, 2012.

Professor Clifford Nass said that the study only included girls but the results should apply to boys as well.  He said that boy’s emotional development is more difficult to analyze because male social development varies widely and over a longer period of time.

I can attest to that last statement.  In my opinion, young boys have early hormonal influences that cause us to look and feel things differently than girls do.

"No one had ever looked at this, which really shocked us," Nass said. "Kids have to learn about emotion, and the way they do that, really, is by paying attention to other people. They have to really look them in the eye."
What needs to happen is for children to spend more time interacting face-to-face with people.  Tweens in the study who regularly talked in person with friends and family were less likely to display social problems, according to the findings in the publication Developmental Psychology.
"If you eschew face-to-face communication, you don't learn critical things that you have to learn," Nass said. "You have to learn social skills. You have to learn about emotion."
The Stanford researchers were not able to determine a magic number of hours that children should spend conversing per week, Nass said. Social skills are typically only learned when children are engaged and making eye contact, rather than fiddling with an iPod during a conversation, he said.
Nass is a self-described technologist of 25 years, who has worked as a consultant with many major electronics firms, including Google and Microsoft. He said the findings disturbed him.
I see this all the time even with adults.  At the Inn, many people have a hard time focusing on a conversation with the other guests.  If they get a voice message, they stop conversation and right away pull out the phone and message to the “important message.”
The immediate guest to guest conversation is unimportant to the phone call or voice message they just received.  How did we survive 25 years ago without cell phones, I wonder?  Is the call or message that really important, or do we just make it out to be what it truly is not.
I ride the TTA  bus to work everyday, and many people, young and old, are constantly pulling out an electronic device to Facebook, take or make calls, play games, or scan the news.  No one talks to each other, although in some instances those that know each other from riding the same bus, do seems to have some conversations.
Before riding the TTA bus, I rode the bus from the parking garage to my office.  That is when I really noticed the unsocialization of young people. Us “older” ones would occasionally talk, but the younger employees, rarely a word.  Now mind you, on the Duke bus, we all have something in common; we ALL work at Duke.  Yet, the conservations were infrequent… like “I do not talk to strangers”, even though we all have the same employer.  No networking!
At least on the TTA bus, those who were initially strangers seem to have more of an interest in talking to the person next to them or across the aisle.
I hope the age of electronic devices do not make us a society of nonverbal communicators.  It so nice to hear a person’s voice compared to the tap-tap-tap of a keyboard.
What Do You Think?
Gary

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